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By the time my neurodivergent clients say the word burnout out loud, they have already been burnt out for approximately two years, sometimes considerably longer. Higgins et al. (2021), in Autism in Adulthood, found that chronic phases of neurodivergent burnout can last five years or more. Five years. That is roughly the lifespan of a British government, or a single French bureaucratic queue, depending on which side of the Channel you happen to be standing on. What I hear abou

Free quiz on conflict communication styles for internationally mobile, ADHD neuro-queer couples Understanding how you fight may be one of the most loving things you ever do Picture this: one partner mentions, in passing, that the bins have not been taken out. The other partner hears: you are a failure, and I am keeping score. One of them is now defending their entire sense of self-worth. The other is genuinely baffled about how they arrived here from a comment about bins. S

Burnout in ADHD, LGBTQ and French expatriates A letter to you, my exhausted client, You told me about the numbness. Then, you told me about the pain. And I want you to know that pain did not come from nowhere. It grew from years of carrying things you were never meant to carry alone, from the harm that was done to you, whatever form it took. And sometimes the body stops pretending. When the body has had enough... There is a tiredness that sleep does not touch. It's heavier th

Have you ever pulled away just when someone is getting close? Do you find yourself needing constant reassurance from your partner? Do you keep choosing emotionally unavailable people, wondering why intimacy feels so hard? You leave one relationship determined to do things differently. Six months later, you are standing in remarkably similar territory. The details change, but the feeling is achingly familiar. Understanding the blueprint behind these patterns could change not j

Why do LGBTQ words matter? Have you noticed how deeply words can affect you? Can you recall a moment when someone mispronounced or forgot your name? What did that feel like in your body? And what about the opposite? When someone remembers your name perfectly, uses it with care and attention? I am curious about what your own experience has taught you about the walls or the bridges that language builds between us. For you, personally The right words give permission to exist. I

Cher toi, Tu es hypersensible, peut-être TDAH aussi, et tu as cette sensation permanente de vivre dans un monde trop rapide, trop bruyant, trop exigeant. Et au fond, dans ce silence qui suit l'épuisement, tu crois que le problème vient de toi. Je le sais. Je le vois. Et je veux te dire quelque chose d'important : cette confusion est profonde, douloureusement profonde. Beaucoup de thérapeutes passent à côté. Ils parlent de gestion des émotions, de routines, de respirations con